For resentment & the ledger
The Ledger Burner
Type what's on the ledger — never uploaded, this stays on your device only, and clearing your browser's cache or site data deletes it for good. Then pick one small entry, deliberately not the biggest, feel the charge under it, and decide: turn it into a request, or burn it.
Questions people ask
Where are my entries stored?
In this browser only — nothing is sent anywhere. Clearing your cache or site data deletes them for good; there's no export on this tool, so copy an entry elsewhere first if you want to keep it.
Doesn't writing resentments down make me dwell on them?
Recording something once is different from rehearsing it — replaying the story on a loop. This tool is built around picking one entry, riding the charge for a defined 90 seconds, and then choosing to convert it into a request or burn it: a single, bounded rep, not an open-ended vent. Burning an entry isn't instant forgiveness either — the same account can need this more than once. If it starts to feel like circling instead of processing, that's the cue to stop.
Sources & further reading
- Every ledger line is a frozen request — naming it as a negotiable ask rather than a silent grievance is the same move as Nonviolent Communication's observation→feeling→need→request structure (Marshall Rosenberg).
- Chronic scorekeeping and its cost to a relationship is John & Julie Gottman's territory — contempt and score-keeping are two of the patterns most reliably linked to relationships ending. The Gottman Institute.
- The somatic-discharge mechanism the wave uses is grounded in the same evidence as anger's Movement & Somatic Discharge work (Blumenthal, 1999).
- Worthington's REACH model of forgiveness is the wider frame this practice sits inside — burning one entry is a single rep in that process, not the whole thing.